“Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the Word of God.” Titus 2:3-5
A Dear Sister-friend called me a “Titus” woman yesterday. I felt a warmth come over me because I knew she meant it sincerely. So I went to the scripture and read the above passage. Wow was my first though. I was deeply moved at the idea that another woman thought of me that way.
I was reading an article on-line about the disconnect between younger and older women today. That doesn’t always mean age. It also means experience. Particularly as it relates to marriage and family relationships. I suspect it is because so many families are in distress and successful married relationships aren’t being modeled today. I find that a lot of women have the “Don’t tell me how to live my life, raise my children, or be a wife” attitude. I have said myself, “You raised yours, now let me raise mine” but then when things got hard, I realized I didn’t know it all, and I asked the elder woman, for advice.
I see young women today so concerned about the superficial things and their hearts are broken, they are wounded and so insecure. They are desperately trying to get their needs met in self-destructive ways with no direction and no sister friend to show them the way.
As older women, we need to be open about the pitfalls and mistakes we made. Don’t be afraid to say, “I didn’t know what I was doing and “Yes, I made the same mistake” Young women, there is no shame in asking for help, and older women, be loving and gentle when giving help and advice. Don’t wait until there is a crisis. It’s the simple things that build the bonds of sisterhood that we share uniquely, no matter what race, economic status or language.
We all at some time will be the teacher or student. Allow yourself to be open when you ask, and allow yourself to loving when you give. Both of you will grow.
I have found the most fulfilling times in my life have been when I have shared myself with another sister-friend and she has used the help and then shared with another sister-friend.
That is what it is all about. It’s like the little song we learned as children “when we all pull together, what an army we’ll be” An army of love, comfort security raising a generation of secure, loving and confident women.
So my dear sister-friend, are you a Titus Woman? If not, start today. If you see a sister struggling, gently take her hand and share, show and be a shoulder. Don’t judge, be loving and always prayerful. Be the light you want the world to see.